Aha Moment

 I submitted a 2000 word only edited version of the following aha moment for my ‘Aha Moment’ submission to Oprah’s website.  I thought best to post the entire epiphany which was more than 2000 words just for ya’ll. www.oprah.com

O.k. here goes.  Tiger apologized on national television about how he cheated on his wife and his children. I ask why?  I really do not care.  I didn’t watch the interview when it came on and I tried really, really hard not to watch anything about it or listen to anything about it. It was impossible.  Every station after and before it came on had already seen the speech and of course leaked some of it, when it was on it was on everywhere and when it was over not only was it on in sound-bites it was on text scrolled on the bottom of the television screen.  Must we all be voyeurs?  How many men just this past several years have cheated on their wives and their children and left them humiliated by that thing between their legs?  This thing gives life and it takes it away.  It gives life and it takes it away.  IT  GIVES  LIFE  — AND — IT  TAKES  IT  AWAY.

 It takes away something from the child who up until this time believed that their father was their hero.  They believed that their hero was gone so many days away from the family because he was working so hard to make sure that they could have all of the finest things in life and taking care of their mother so she could also.  They believed that when they saw their father on t.v. hopping on one jet after another, standing in front of Congress spouting about what, ” I as the Governor, the Senator, the District Attorney, the academy award winning actor, the Mayor, the teacher, the waste management worker, the pastor, the man on disability” – this man was their hero.  Humf – really now?

Now the children are left to have to try to make sense of this illusion that they have lived under.  They have to listen to the pain in their mothers voices as she tries to stand by her man and then try to leave that same man when he continues to humiliate her and her children.  They are stared at and talked about and other children tease them.  How many of us could live our lives if everyone knew our dirty secrets?  We all have them.  If we don’t, I suspect we must NOT be human.   All of us make mistakes; however, many of us are given grace that allows us to not have the entire world looking at our mistakes.  And not only looking at our mistakes but talking about them on major networks, having other people talk about our business on major networks, having people lie on us on major networks and then have story after story written and embellished and on top of all of that – after our lives have been scrutinized with the finest of all fine toothed combs – we need to apologize to the world? Come on!!! As my momma use to say and I am sure yours did also if the kids next door jump off the roof, will you?  Must we all be lord of the rings people? Can the people who report and write and say how much children mean to them – really put the microphone and the pen to the test and turn it off and put it down.  No speakey, no typey – let’s report the NEWS! Someone’s life is not news.  Has anyone every considered the spouse, the mother, the sister, the aunt who is left to make a major decision about her life and her children’s lives in the midst of this turmoil?  This kind of pain is unimaginable and can be unbearable.  We must take a look at this society and realize that just because you can doesn’t mean you should.  What are we really teaching our children?  Kids do what you do and not what you say.  Who really is the bully?  Is it Tiger or men like Tiger, is it the women or women like these women or is it society who help create these men  who have the thing that takes life away to be able to think they are untouchable.

Women stand up and claim who you are – just because he wants to stick it in ya doesn’t mean you should let him. This whole scandal is one of the many that are reported that is no one elses business – aha. No one else’s business but theirs – aha. As Beyonce states “oh oh oh oh oh oh oh ah oh, oh oh oh oh ah oh oh oh” …… then she turns her  head left to right and right to left, left hand in the hair waving with a beat and stepping out with stiletto’s – you go girl!!


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