Teresa LeYung Ryan – Check her out!!

Teresa LeYung Ryan, author, writing coach, mentor, speaker, and friend says, and I quote  “I am so happy to announce the opening of the Love Made of Heart online store where you’ll find gift items for yourselves, children, moms and babies, pets, friends.”
http://lovemadeofheart.com/Love-Made-of-Heart-Online-Store-&-Gift-Shop.html

Need she  say more? (SMILE) Congratulations Teresa on another job well done.  It is always a good thing to surround yourself with like-minded people who are in motion. If you don’t rememnber anything else remember that.  Be forward thinking, moving and going somewhere, ANYWHERE besides where you are at right now.  Move something and believe me, life will reward the movement by surrounding you with others who are in the business of moving. 

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose
Seeks to enrich the lives of women through spoken word.
510-589-6445
yolandebarial@wordpress.com
www.redroom.com/member
ybarial@gmail.com

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers all sisters, young and seasoned, to become on-purpose for themselves.”

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Garage Sales

Sunday, my favorite day, was woman’s day at church. I read the responsive reading, I sang in the women’s choir and after service, all of the women had a meeting regarding what we are going to cook for breakfast and serve to our men on Fathers Day.  As it was Women on Mission Sunday, our female Rev. brought the Word.  The name of her sermon was Jehovah Jirah/God will provide. She spoke about how society has been through a lot of upheaval – emotional, spiritual, economic as well as acts of nature that have reaked havoc on this world.  She described the aftermath  of all of this destruction as like a having a garage sale.  When we are ready to move, we have to downsize and what better way to get rid of your stuff than to have a garage sale.  If you notice, there are quite a few garage sales going on every weekend.  People are finally getting it that they have so much stuff that they can often not park all of their cars in their own garage –  no room. They are having garage sales so that they do not have to carry their stuff into their new environment. Whether that environment be a house, an apartment, a shelter or a park bench – they have to let go of the things that they thought they had to have in order to live and come to the realization; often times without even a chance to get the realization, that you have to move. We have to realize that in the end all we really need is Him.  He will provide.  It may not be the way it use to be, He will provide in all things that really matter – at the time.  He will provide by giving you the strength to endure whatever the situation. So you say it is not fair. Well we have already talked about that terrible little phrase “not fair”.  Life is not fair and will never be fair.  We  are given what we can handle and we have to raise or take care for our mistakes that were committed when we thought we had all the stuff we needed.  We have to live those mistakes out.  We can make amends, we can change and transform however some of those mistakes or wrong turns or even a second of a misstep often times remain with us. We have to learn even in utter not fairness that God will provide and we can endure what we must.  People today are realizing that they really do not need that extra couch or that extra car or all of the clothes and shoes that they wanted and all of the knick knacks, statues, 5 television sets, stuff packed into see through containers stacked in the garage or under the  stairs in the storage and even in the tuff shed, you had built on your property so you didn’t have to be go and get your storage, you could just walk out your backdoor to look at it.  Cause you and I both know that once anything gets stored (besides Christmas decorations) it is pretty much never seen again until you get ready to move. Then you say the universal statement ‘how did I get all of this stuff” ? If pushed to the end of your rope – you have a garage sale. You finally let it go and realize that in order to move we have to be prepared. God is already cutting stuff  away on this earth, are we ready, are we prepared just in case He comes back today or tomorrow. I think I am going to have a garage sale. You?

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose
Seeks to enrich the lives of women through spoken word.
510-589-6445
yolandebarial@wordpress.com
www.redroom.com/member
ybarial@gmail.com

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers all sisters, young and seasoned, to become on-purpose for themselves.”

What God Says

It has taken me a few days and I know what it means – it is  what God says. Not what I say, or anyone else in my life says – it is just what God says. I am a believer that when I hear something and whatever it is, if I write it down, there is a lesson to be learned or something to be seen for the first time with my older eyes and ears. I think that when I get these feelings the results are some kind of change, some kind of  aha moment, an epiphany, a new way of thinking or a life altering decision.

This week my boss was out-of-town at a conference and I was the little boss while he was gone.  It was an intense week. I worked every day for a minimum of 8.5 hours without a lunch break.  Well now that sounds like I didn’t eat, I ate, I just never left the building, I ate at my desk between emails, phone calls and the occasional office worker who talks to loud standing outside my office without a door.  I am not writing to complain, I am simply explaining the words that inspired me for this week. God says to believe his words and not yours.  Follow His lead and don’t take off on your own guidance without it being filtered through God. I was intense, I was focused and I was calm. There were one or two things that went askew and those were manageable.  I have performed my bosses job; as well as mine without an assistant several times when he has been out-of-town.

What I learned from each time “acting” for him is that I DO NOT WANT TO BE THE BOSS!  Never, ever , ever AND NEVER AGAIN!  I see so much backbiting and glances between individual department heads, the rolling of eyes,  the arguing with you without looking at you, the micromanager and the gossip – I don’t want to be the boss.  I will retire at 55 and make this thing work for me – the writing. I have spent all of this time with these people. These people will ignore you for days without any reprieve. I asked the Lord to give me my words and He says do what I say not what you say or anyone else says. He did give me the words in that he says in Proverbs a wise man holds his tongue a fool tells everything he knows.  I was a wise man white knuckling it though. Just hanging on to every word that I wanted to say and remembering I really don’t want to be a fool but um under the circumstances this may just be the moment! It is hard when you are trying to do the right thing and behave in a manner fitting of someone who says she loves the Lord when other people do not even have a clue of what common respect of others look like. I made it.  I did what God says and I am blessed to have these words and these scriptures and the people in my life to keep me grounded in reality and not in what it could be. I always fall back into the phrase ‘it’s not fair’.  Well life isn’t fair. However we can be fair.

It took about 2 hours to get home today, I was in Memorial Day get-a-way weekend traffic.  I knew I was going to be sitting and I was prepared. A can of Coke, a water bottle, a bag of Doritos-spicy and a whole lot of my favorite candy – Smartees, all of my favorite cd’s and my driver seat was comfortably adjusted for chilling.  Now what could be better. Oh and I might add the sun was out and the weather was perfect for sitting in traffic. Not too hot and not too cold. Beautiful.

When I arrived my children were in good spirits. Real silly.  My daughter pulls out  a cell phone to say look what she found.  After a little bit of talking, I found out that she found it at the park and that she liked it and she wanted it.  I explained to her that she could not have it and that we had to call the owner and return it to them. She was not happy.  We were on our way into one of  both of our favorite places Goodwill, and once inside the store she totally forgot about the cell phone.  My shopping, discount store lover, little diva proclaimed she needed a purse.  She looked until she found one. I found some dresses and she found a purse that according to her she has been looking for, for a very long, long time and she was going to use it for school when she got in the 4th grade. I smiled. When we arrived home, we ate dinner and I called the owner. The mom was excited and came over to get the phone.  When she rang the doorbell she was so thankful.  I smiled and told her that my daughter found it. She gave her a $20.00 bill and told my daughter (who remember didn’t want to give the phone back) thank you and that her daughter had lost it at the park and she was so sad. My daughter smiled and said you are welcome.  We bid each other goodnight and I closed the door.

I said to her now see isn’t that nice you got some money for doing the right thing? I added now you may not always get money for doing the right thing because you should always try to do the right thing regardless of what you might or might not get.  She smiled. Now she is 8. Will she remember everything I said? Probably not. What she will remember is the feelings that she felt when she did the right thing and I believe this feeling will remain with her for the rest of her life.  As she gets older she will remember this feeling and will be able to go back, as I have done countless times, to what I feel inside. To go back to the running theme in my life, a theme that I didn’t incorporate into who Yolande was for years, this theme is to do what God says and not what I say. 

I pray for that insight with my children and wouldn’t it be nice if  in this time of me, me, me and fast money and fast love and infidelity and baby daddys and baby momma’s and a political system that is confused and a society based on the idea of crabs in a bucket – if someone could remember the feelings that come from the inside. The still small whisper that is felt in our guts that tells us something is right and something is wrong. That voice is HIS. Follow it and you will not be led astray. You will step up to the plate in your life and do the right thing because it is the right thing. You will behave in a manner that makes you feel good and not behave the way people want you to behave. That is peace. Doing what God says.

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers all sisters, young and seasoned, to become on-purpose for themselves.”

Destiny

I woke up and heard some good words this morning that I know are for me to learn something. I listened to Joel Osteen say that in Isaiah 54:17 the scripture that says no weapon formed against you will prosper means to him that nothing that has happened in your past will keep you from your God given destiny. He spoke about Jabez and that fact that his name means pain. His mother named him pain. Not because of anything that her son did but because of things that she experienced. He then referred to Romans 3:4 where it says let God be true and every man a liar.  I went to His Word and there it was. Read it. So what do I have to do. He then told a story about a fisherman getting lost in a fog and not being able to see the direction he should go to return to the shore and the fact that the bumblebee is not supposed to be able to fly because the laws of physics say he cannot. This is a lot to absorb right now. It means something to me so this is how I begin my Wednesday in His Word and with Him in me.

A good day

www.mangomediacaribbean.com/blog/images/success.jpgMy son got a B on his paper! Now this is the paper that he had done such a poor job on, that I knew if he turned it in, the teacher would give him an F.  So, I suggested he re-write it. He did.  He was beaming and was so proud of himself and I was so proud of him also. I did my diva dance, gave him a hug and told him that I was proud of him!  

My middle son hearing all of this broohaha over his brother said, well I got a B on my Oklahoma paper! I said yes I know. I acted a fool over you too remember – diva dance? Then I said what did I do when you told me about your fabulous grade? He said you kissed me, smelled my neck, gave me a  hug and said you were proud of me.  

I then said, I have great kids. My daughter who is sitting on the floor doing her best to put on her boots said, what about me? I said, what about you? And she said, you never say I do great work. I said of course I do, remember we made your schoolhouse log cabin and your rocket model and that was great work? She said, oh yea. Then in her typical fashion she got up and flashed her almost-pearly whites (she needs to brush better) grabs me by the waist and looks up at me and says ‘you know you love me!’ I smile and said yes I do. I love all of you. So, let’s go so I can take ya’ll to school and then I can go to the office. My boss is out this week and I am running thangs! (ha ha ha) Any day now retiring at 55 is around the corner. Yee haaa!!

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers all sisters, young and seasoned, to become on-purpose for themselves.”

My Sunday

This is the longest time that I have ever not blogged and I thought about it all weekend. I am retiring at 55 and this soon to come date is looming every present in my mind. I spent Thursday night inserting pictures in my blogs as my writing coach Teresa www.WritingCoachTeresa.com has encouraged me to do.  This process takes a long time, trying to find the right picture for the words I write. 

I spent Friday morning at Creflo Dollar’s meeting at the Paramount Theater in Oakland.  www.creflodollarministries.org  It was one of the best run meetings that I have ever been to and the people who were there at 10 a.m. in the morning on a Friday were happy to be in the presence of people who love the Lord. Creflo spoke about the word honor and he pointed to 1 Samuel 2:30 where he drew a sermon from the section that says if you honor the Lord, He will honor you and if you despise the Lord you will be disdained. He then went on to say that a definition of the word honor is to carry weight, make heavy, weight in and the question was “does the Word carry weight in your life?”  I take notes all of the time whenever I go to hear anyone speak even at church. Creflo then asked us to replace the word honor with carry weight and then restate the scripture and it ould read that if you carry the weight of the Lord, he will carry your weight.  Well, everyone in the audience said a collective amen, hallelujah, thank you Lord and oh my God – statements that people say who shout out doing a message that touches their spirit. It touched mine. After speaking about this for a while I was moved to feeling the exact same way about this message that he wanted us to feel and that was that God helps us during times when things are what we think is way to much for us and he steps in and carries our troubles. He then said read the Bible, so you know what the preachers is saying is true or not and then we can make a decision. His interpretation of the word honor to carry weight is not in the standard Webster dictionary; neither Greek nor Hebrew translations.  I really can’t remember if he said this was a Jewish, Greek or Hebrew meaning of the word honor. Creflo’s request for us to read the bible stayed with me until last night when I decided to look up the word honor and its meanings.  I didn’t find ‘carry weight’ in Websters dictionary www.merriam-webster.com. The words for honor; honesty, fairness, or integrity in one’s beliefs and actions; yes.  I looked in Strong’s Concordance on-line www.eliyah.com/lexicon.html and could not find ‘carry weight as a meaning of honor”‘.  I looked in the Hebrew interpretation of  honor on-line and I did not find carry weight.  Is it there?  I hope so.  If not, well it is just not. I hope someone out there knows. I was thinking that because he said it has to be true. I hope so. I left from the meeting and went directly to the office.  I was on fire and ready for whatever the Lord had planned for me that day.  Nothing phased me and that was a good thing.  

This really began to bother me on Saturday. Why? This bothers me because I want the words that he said to be true.  I can see how it can be so. I will say it is refreshing to know that even if carry weight is not a definition of  honor; the mere fact that His Word tells me to honor Him and He will honor me, His Word tells me to honor my father and mother and He will honor me is still good enought for me. I believe from seeing it manifest in my life that God has in fact always had my back. Even when it has taken a while for me to get it – He has always been honest with me in word and deed when I have been honest with Him and his representatives. Representatives being showing respect and giving a little bit of me to everyone I encounter from the person who rings me up at the cash register checkout line, to the person who may cut in front of me in traffic, to the waiter who keeps filling up my glass of water and to the person who parks my car for me – I honor them and He honors me. What a wonderful Father God to have in our lives who would carry what we can not carry until we can.  I mean to be able to lean on him when we have done His work and to know that by doing  His work for people who are not famous, or are some elected official, or even some PTA or sports mom or dad – to help just because, means that we will receive a reward. That reward will not come right away however it will come in God’s time. He also emphasized the idea that changing your thought will change your mind.  And he added that “change isn’t change until you’ve changed”. A simple statement, a true statement.  A statement that is so much a part of me that it is me.

Service today was filling as usual.  The pastor’s message today was about receiving our gift. He said that this gift is not tangible; you can’t see it or touch it however you can feel it.  He added that you can’t keep doing the same thing if you have Jesus in your heart. I agree with that.  This is so obvious when you see people preaching or talking to you about one thing and then you look at their lives. Creflo said that you can tell where a persons treasure is when you look at 2 things his checkbook and his calendar. Where you spend your money and your time is indicative of the person you really are when no one is looking. 

My goal is to be more than what people see.  My goal is to be more that what I can see.  Today my middle son baked cookies, my older son met someof his basketball teammates at the park and they played some ball, my daughter was drawing on the sidewalk with chalk and then went down the street to her girlfriends house. 

My Mr. Cooper does have a Mrs. Cooper and I smiled. I didn’t see her, she didn’t come to church, he and I had our every after church Sunday hand shake and the church kiss on the side of the cheek.  At first I was a teeny bit sad and then as the Sunday continued and I went to do my yard work I realized what a good thing.  At least my attraction towards men who really are not capable of commitment is changing.  As my diva sister said to me that your Mr. Cooper is coming, and I said, I know. 

Later, my children and I cut the grass and they played and then I potted some plants and watered the grass and admired what I am becoming.  A woman who is after the heart of God.

Yolande Barial; Sensually Spirit, A writer

Oprah, Will and Me

    I tape Oprah daily and watch it when the mood hits me either in the evening or on the weekend.  I don’t watch every show only the ones that intrigue me.  Tonight while cleaning out my purse which as any woman knows must be done regularly,  Will and Jada Smith and their children and extended family were her guests. My sister asked me to watch the show to see what I thought about the interview and the sincerity of the two of them, their children and their families which included Will’s ex-wife and her husband and both Will and Jada’s mothers. They all looked happy and of course all were smiling and could really be the real Huxtables.  I have always admired Will Smith and his work ethic and his love of his parents and his deep sense of personal responsibility to becoming and giving your best to anything that you begin doing. It was one of those shows where I smiled, I understood the words that they spoke and most importantly-  I felt that it was genuine.   http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Jada-Pinkett-Smith-Talks-About-How-She-Keeps-the-Spark-Alive-Video Yes they are both actors and they are good.  Could they act their way through this interview, yes.  Did they? I really don’t know. No one knows what goes on in anyone’s marriage, it is indeed one of the most private of relationships – as it should be.  Only when the two of you become equally yoked can great things happen. Your way of  achieving a goal may be different however the goal should be the same. There has to be a meeting of the minds that comes to believe that idea or that common interest in what is good for the children or for the relationship. Then we push back our outer selfish self and pull forward the inner potentially good self and then we act on the good and the one thing that always happens is – release. Now this release is not easy however if practiced on a regular basis it becomes a little less uncomfortable each time and soon, that thing that the other person does won’t bother you at all. Love is an action. It is not found in the back seat of  a car, or at the mall or becoming the supervisor or even winning a Grammy or an Oscar. Love is a work in progress and from the inside out.  

Will said something very powerful at least for me, he said that  “greatness lives on the edge of destruction”.  As soon as he said it I felt it.  We generally grow when we have been hurt to the core or when we have hit our bottom or when we are just plain old tired of doing the same thin,g the same way over and over again expecting different results.

My son wrote his paper and went to sleep around 12 a.m. This morning as the paper was printing I saw that it had to be around 8 pages. I didn’t read it, I didn’t edit it, I just gave it a quick once over. I asked him how he felt about this paper and he said he liked it. I asked him if he learned his lesson and he said yes. I am not sure whether he did or not. The proof of this will come in his action.  I am fully aware that his frontal lobe is not yet developed and we may have to go through this scenario a few more times before he graduates from  high school.  He doesn’t know it now, however I plan to help him reach his greatness – which might lead to some kind of minor little destruction of some of his stuff  –  on my part.

Yolande Barial, Sensually and Spiritually Inspirational