Bicycle Helmets – “where are you”?

This year my children began riding their  bicycles to school.  The 3 of them ride as many other children ride to school – without helmets.  The reason that my children give is that there is no place to keep the helmet. Well I did some digging today… In their schools – elementary school has some place to put the bike, nothing about the helmet;  middle school has a place to put the bike that is caged however helmets are left on the bike; high school has a place to put the bike however no place for their helmet other than their backpack.  The reason I had not enforced the helmet was because I have been just plain tuckered out.  I am back now ….our children should have a place to keep their helmets; after all California State Law Senate Bill 1924 mandates that they wear helmets. Mmmmm. http://www.cdph.ca.gov/HealthInfo/injviosaf/traffic/Documents/SB1924-VOSP.pdf

http://www.cdph.ca.gov/HealthInfo/injviosaf/traffic/Documents/SB1924-VOSP.pdf

Working Mom

I spent the last 9 days working at work,working at home, working at home on work and working on home at home. From this experience I again realized that being the boss is not something that I want to do.  Especially when it comes to being the boss of  something where I feel no passion. Don’t get me wrong, I am blessed to be able to be employed at the company where I have worked for 18+ years.  I have had some high highs and some low lows in my working career, this job has allowed me to take care of my children and  take care of not only their basic needs as well as some of their pretty gotta have  right now wants. There have been times when I have felt taken for granted, dismissed and ignored and overlooked while working for my boss; however this time I was able to put it all in perspective.  The perspective is that from my own standpoint I don’t want the job, this feeling of not comes out to those who want to be more of a boss than they already are and so perhaps they don’t see me.  The other perspective is that I do something to irritate those who don’t speak to me and they subconsciously choose to stay away from me.  I am not sure which is prevalent, all I know is that I am changing my thoughts on this.  I don’t want to be the boss, this I know for sure, so of course those who dismiss me have no real vested interest in waxing overly poetic to me about a situation because; well, I really am not all that interested in extra conversation that is not productive. Another perspective is that I can see when someone is insincere and perhaps when I look at them their inner insincerity comes out and I bother them because they know that I know. Whatever the reaction that fellow employees have about me, is their reaction and it has nothing to do with who I am as much as it is who they are – on the inside. http://www.theworkbuzz.com/fun-stuff/tv-bosses/

As a working mother of three I realize what is special and that is them.  These past 9 days I have been simply working at work and coming home and working. I have exhausted all of my energy by midnight and the kids are long gone to sleep.  I know that being the boss you spend a lot of time away from your family and your friends.  I don’t want that.  I would rather be a working mom working at home than a working mom working from an office. Then I will make my own schedule and set my own pace.  I will retire at 55 to make this happen for me and for my children. Their mother, me, will be better prepared to go into the next decades of my children’s lives – well nourished with my desire to do and be mo’ better. 

 Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445
 

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Sunday – the day after

All I can say is this past week has been one of the busiest.  I could barely enjoy my Sunday which is my favorite day of the week, for all of the things that were swirling in my mind.  I have been acting for my boss while he is out of the country and I tell you that busy or rather fruitful is just a smidgen of how I have been occupied. Not only at work, however at home, and in my writing career – fruitful.

However enjoy it I did.  Sunday that is. I always wake up feeling happy on Sunday. I look forward to having my coffee and beginning the day with word.  I look forward to waking my children up and all of us get dressed and go to church.  I immediately feel comforted when I walk into the doors of the sanctuary as I am greeted by good mornings, you go girls, I love that outfit, bad shoes chile, fake cheek kisses, warm real cheek kisses, hugs galore and a lot of respectful deacon and mother of the church head nods accompanied by a smile – it feels like home to me, it just feels like home. Today the pastors question were 2. One was who are you? and the other was reaching a decision. The pastor preached 2 messages today. Even though he spoke I really didn’t hear what he was saying this Sunday. I was overcome with the feeling of complete joy of complete satisfaction with my life. I was doing what I know feeds me, I was sitting amongst people who are genuinely trying to get to the point in their lives where the question and the statement mentioned by the pastor will get answered and revealed. The answer should be that I am a child of God first and then I am a mother and then I am a good friend and I am a fabulous writer and author.  He says that n 2 Cor 5:17 we become new creatures when we truly allow God to dwell in us and manifest in our actions.  When we know who we are then and only then will the decisions we reach line up with where we are going in our lives. The destiny decision allows us to continue even when we have minor set backs; we know that those set backs are just that a little something that sets us back a little bit from our present course; however it does not deter us from our ultimate decision. He then expounded and gave the following description. If you take off in your car going to let’s say southern california and while on the road your tire goes flat. What do you do? Do you turn around and go back further damaging the tire, do you park it and get out and wait for someone to pick you up, do you decide not to go in the direction you were going and come back to where you had been or do you  change the flat and keep on going? My decision of course is to change the flat and then keep on moving. I know that if we don’t do this we will just fade away.  

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/The-Power-of-Gratitude

Oprah

Well yesterday was Oprah’s first show of the last season of the Oprah Winfrey Show. I saw it yesterday and all of the 300 invited guests – her all-time favorite fans – I found that I was teary.  The women and the sprinkling of men that were in the audience were so excited, screaming, jumping, hugging each other and crying. The audience was in the same frenzy as the people we see at the Michael Jackson’s concerts, except for, of course, there was no fainting and having to be carried out of the arena – all sweaty and just plain old wrung out from the sheer excitement of the experience of being in the presence of Michael.  Oprah’s fans, those who have been with her on this amazing ride for 25 years, are taken aback by how quick that 25 has flown.  I remember the first time she came on the air, I was 25 years old.  She captivated me from the first show and to this day she still makes me smile.  As a fellow Mississippian, she makes me proud. As a black woman I am in awe of her ability to cross color lines. As a woman who has loved and lost and loved and lost and loved and finally got it – I say you go girl! As a woman who loves God as I loved God I welcome her  insights. As a girlfriend to Gayle, I fee her. To have someone love you even when you are not lovable is the ultimate in being a true friend.  

I remember the very first time I had my show at Starbucks in Oakland.  The place was packed, there were no more chairs for people to sit in, the tables were bunched together to accommodate all of the people who were standing and there were even people hanging around outside – waiting for my first poetry show to begin at Magic Johnsons Starbucks.  I was the producer, the director, the writer and the all around hostess with the most-est. I was amazed that so many people came.  They came of course to listen to spoken word and yet I know that the larger reason they came was for me. To support me and to be able to enjoy some of their friends who they knew would also be there to support me.  I remember sitting with my mr. chocolate holding his hands, looking into his eyes and saying to him that I can’t believe it.  He said matter of fact, I don’t know why you have put the work into this and of course they were coming.  I smiled and felt so much love and appreciation and what was more it was respect.  I can only imagine that my feeling of OMG are magnified akatrillion times with Oprah.  I  had a birthday party with my girlfriend to thank the people in my life for their continued support. It was  a party where we had guests and no one had to pay for the show nor the dinner. Oprah gave her 300 guests a trip to Australia that was her way of saying thank you.  http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Oprahs-Surprise-for-Her-Ultimate-Viewers-Video

It is not what you know, it is who you know and how you treat who you know when you don’t need them.  Oprah Winfrey has done amazing things with her life and with the wealth that she has been blessed to have. She gives back and gives back and then gives more; and it is always magnified back to her many times over. I plan to give another party one day to these same people who made me who I am at 50 – again.  Maybe at 100 years old. Retiring at 55 – whew – time does go by. 

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

 https://yolandebarial.wordpress.com/ 

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 “Through her inspiraional writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.

Sunday – Woo Hoo

I woke up this morning excited as usual because as you know Sunday is my favorite day.  More to follow tomorrow – sleepy now. G’night.

Ok here you go….

I woke up this morning excited as usual because as you know Sunday is my favorite day.  And today I had so many words speak to me that I know a change is coming – again.  I set my alarm on Saturday evenings to wake up at 6:30 a.m. to allow me time to hit the snooze button about 4 times and then finally at about 6:55 a.m., I sit straight up and begin the stumbly, half awake/eyes barely open walking and holding on to the rails of the staircase as I walk slowly down guided by the aroma of coffee.  I go into the kitchen pour my coffee, put in a teaspoon of sugar and then take that first sip – yeeeaass – and then I amble back up the stairs a little more alert and sit down on the edge of my bed with the hot coffee cup in my left hand and the remote control in my right. I turn on the t.v. and hear the voice of Charles Stanley. http://www.intouch.org/  He was talking about the woman at the well.  This is the second time that one of my favorite speakers has spoken about this woman at the well, the Samaritan woman. The other speaker that spoke about this woman was TD Jakes. http://www.tdjakes.org/.  I believe I finally figured why some women settle in relationships it is the talk that we talk about ourselves in our minds that comes out in our speech.  It has been proven by some high-falutin big time scientific types who enjoy the small stuff that makes us all tick, that we believe what we hear about ourselves from our own mouths rather than what people/the world has to say. There is a scripture that mentions we are hung by the tongue and I do believe that.  This is the principle of the book The Secret and it is the principle of the New Testament of the Bible.  What we say we become, what we speak we are. http://www.thesecret.tv/

So, back to the woman at the well.  She is a woman who has had 4 husbands and now is single again and living with a 5th guy. When she encounters this man sitting at the well, he asks her, a Samaritan woman, for some water and then asks her a question about her husband. She is surprised that he asks her for the water (and that is another aha moment that I am not going to deal with right now) and about her husband. She replied that she does not have a husband. Again, this woman has been married 4 times and now she has decided to just shack up with number 5. …in her mind she came to the conclusion that BECAUSE every man that she loved and gave her all to left, that there must be something wrong with her.  Soooo what she does is internalize this and then decides well I am not going to give myself to any man in marriage, I am going to not expect anything and choose a man to just get by – settle. Me? Oh my…maybe..naaawww..oh…my…

http://www.oprah.com/omagazine/What-Oprah-Knows-for-Sure-Aha-Moments-and-Listening-to-Your

Here comes my aha moment; follow me ya’ll… One of the things that Charles Stanley explained this morning was that back in those days, the man did not need to have a reason to leave the relationship, it could be anything from how the husband didn’t like what she cooked for dinner to what he wants his wife to do sexually that she doesn’t want to do, to something that she knows is immoral and she will not do, to not liking your family and friends, to not watching what he wants to watch on t.v.!  Now this woman, who in her eyes has been rejected, realizes that she no longer wants to be rejected, so she settles and allows this last man to live with her without benefit of the marriage she always believed she needed. Stanley said that no amount of apologies can make up for the rejection that this woman has felt on many an occasion by man after man.  Every time they left for their reasons this Samaritan woman’s heart was broken. Then Stanley said that the man at the well said that what He had to offer was the living water and that living water would and could provide all that she needs. He told her of her past and she knew then, that it wasn’t that she was wrong; what it is, is that she needed to realize that the men she chose had their reasons that really had nothing to do with who she is!  (…for all of you sistahs who already know this; great, just bare with those of us who just got it!…) If I continue to talk the negative deep-down-inside kinda’-quiet talk to myself that is not good for me, then what makes me think good will come. This Samaritan woman came away from this encounter with a new found belief that indeed God lives in her and so she leaves His presence to tell all of the men that she saw as she skipped back into town about her encounter. She had an inner glow and even though they could see the same body walking; they could feel something different about her. These men believed her. And then believed even more when they encountered this man, Jesus, for themselves.  Stanley says the Samaratin woman did not speak to any of the other women – only to the men. My thoughts here – women have a tendency to be more critical of each other and less forgiving and that is another blog entirely; and often times until another woman can really see a change in actions, they find it hard to embrace the change. I believe that Ms. Samaritan continues in her joy from this encounter forward and soon she is at the point where she is so full of His love that his love isn’t as important as she thought it was.  It would be nice; however it will not define her. Her passion is and always will be God and the 3 children that He has entrusted in her care. She/I plan to come to my life with this renewed vigor for who I am and embrace the living water that His Word promises.  

 Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

https://yolandebarial.wordpress.com/

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ybarial@gmail.com

 “Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”

Michelle Obama

First Lady Michelle Obama fit and fabulous at an event in New Orleans today.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1310344/First-Lady-Michelle-Obama-shows-moves-sports-field.html
In my lifetime, I can’t remember seeing a First Lady of the United States run and play.  She not only ran and played she looked good doing it.  She wasn’t winded, she didn’t complain and she had a smile on her face and even had a high five moment – she just outright looked Fabulous!!! Today the media missed this story a good story, about a woman who is the First Lady of the United States. The media who follows every misstep or quote out of context that the President and the Mrs. say or don’t say only it appears when it is perceived as negative; however in this case not one single media outlet that I saw even spoke about this today.  Had it not been for my sister I would’ve missed it
All I can say is “wow!” And on a more personal note “you go girl!!” (aka First Lady)

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

https://yolandebarial.wordpress.com/

http://www.redroom.com/member/yolandebarial

ybarial@gmail.com

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.

Grateful

I was listening to Joyce Meyer this morning and she mentioned how we grumble about things that once we were excited about having.  She then spoke about the Exodus of the Israelites out of Egypt. I, of course, have heard about this story; known it was in the Bible, skimmed the Bible text and even seen the movie where Charlton Heston plays Moses in The Ten Commandments – I knew about this story!!  The depiction of Moses (aka Charlton) raising his staff and parting the Red Sea still gives me the feel-good heebiejeebies.  I love this movie. Well this morning when Joyce mentioned it, it was different, perhaps it was time that I got it. What it made me do was to go into the scripture and read it for myself.

search.barnesandnoble.com/…God…/JoyceMeyer/e/9781410401496

Exodus 15 – 20. Here are people who have been tortured and enslaved for many, many years and finally they have been led out of a terrible situation into one where there is a possibility of a better life. They begin to walk, following one man (Moses) and soon are being chased by the Egyptians. Here is the miracle that is to top them all – Moses parts the Red Sea by raising his staff (aka stick, cane, something to lean on when walking and to keep the sheep/the american public from falling off the cliff) and keeping it in the air and as he does this, the sea splits in two and forms two columns of water, the Israelites walk through the sea/water on dry land and get to the other side of the sea without so much as a drop of water on their person. When Moses lowers his staff (aka stick, cane, something to lean on when walking and to keep the sheep/the american public from falling off the cliff) the column of waters come crashing down and the Egyptians that were pursuing them and who are in the midst of the Red Sea – all die, they get wet.  Now who wouldn’t be happy and blessed and excited and in such awe as these people? They saw it and lived it and know that only a God-inspired person could’ve done this. Well and oh my, it wouldn’t be the Israelites because after a few more days of being in the desert, they (those who just walked through the sea) begin to grumble and complain to Moses because they are hungry. So what does God do? He gives the grumblers (aka Israelites/american public) quail and manna (meat and bread); every day just enough food for that day and no more. The next day would take care of itself – there is a supply of food for each day. The quail  appear in the evening and the manna comes in the morning and looks like white dew on the ground. They were overjoyed again and praised the God of Moses, just like the last time when they crossed into and out of the Red Sea. Then they grumble some more and ask Moses for water and they get that! Moses strikes the rock with his staff and water comes out of it. They drink. The story goes on from there to the delivering of the Ten Commandments. I mean people this is some good stuff!!!  Read it and see for yourself. 

What I want to emphasize is the ungratefulness of the people then and now. How many times have we, well let me speak for me. How many times have I been so ungrateful for the things that I have right in front of me.  Things that without His grace would not have happened. There have been many times when I have asked God to help me with this challenge or with this got-to-have-dream-right-now and He has supplied it and then after a very short time in my timeline-for-asking-for-things-and-gettin’ it, I want something more and better and bigger and well, just different. I can be one of the most selfish humans alive when it comes down to feeling poor pitiful me – why can’t I have this or once I get it, why do I have to do that. The manna/the quail that God gives me daily really will supply all of my needs.  I remember wanting to stop drinking , I remember almost being raped, I remember creating my own businesses, I remember wanting to be married, I remember wanting to buy a house, I remember wanting a son to name after my father who was dying, I remember wanting another child, I remember being pregnant with a girl, I remember wanting to get a divorce, I remember writing a God-inspired poem, I remember my first piece published, I remember my first aha moment, I remember good times in church and at home, I remember graduating from Xavier University, I remember the psoriasis that is much better, I remember good friends’ smiles and good friends’ hugs, I remember all of the good that God has blessed me to have. I remember the pain and the humiliation and the condescending tones and out-right attacks on my person. I don’t dwell on them though, I remember the past.

I remain eternally grateful that as a woman who will retire at 55 the grumbling has come to a minimum. I want us to be able to say out loud that no amount of fighting with my spouse/who is my manna, no amount of kids totally working your very last nerve/who are the quail, no amount of boss irritation/who is water or coworker intrusion/more water, no amount of the house I live in that needs a new roof/my manna and a new fence/my manna, no amount of constant negative media bombardment/ tepid water, no amount of job losses/was quail, no amount of foreclosures/was my manna – no amount of any of this, is to compare with the gratitude I feel for what God has shown me.  I am not going to look back. I am grateful for the bread/manna and the quali/meat and the water/water that He provides. I will continue to go forward in my walk with Him, learning something every single day. He walks with me and with my children and with you.  He keeps me when I don’t have a clue how to keep my sanity. He is alive. 

www.oprah.com/oprahradio/The-Magic-of-Gratitude

What is the manna/quail/water in my life that keeps me so well fed and hydrated that I become distracted that God has already provided all that I need and I really do no need more? Be grateful for what you have my dear Yolande and for what you have come through.

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

http:/yolandebarial.wordpress.com/

http://www.redroom.com/member/yolandebarial

ybarial@gmail.com  

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.