6 Days

 O, The Oprah Magazine ” If the only prayer you ever say is thank you, that will be enough. (From the German theologian and humanist Meister Eckhart) — #7 on Oprah’s list of the top things she knows for sure …’.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!   Thanksgiving is the time that is set aside during the month of  November in the good ole’  US of A   for us to give thanks.  We are reminded continually to give thanks for all the good that is in our lives. We are told that turkey and ham, candied yams and sweet potato pie and red velvet cake are some of the foods that  symbolize the holiday of thanksgiving. We are given at minimum one day and at most two days off from our jobs to do nothing more than just plain old eat ourselves into a tryptophan coma and then get up before the crack of dawn in this turkey-induced-high and go and spend; well let’s be honest, to go and charge things that you believe your friends/relatives must have and things your children cannot possibly do without. We do all in the name of the holiday of thanksgiving and then we rest.  By that time it is the weekend and instead of relaxing we find ourselves exhausted and realizing that now we only have 1 and a half days to accomplish our chores, our mom taxi driving duties dropping off and picking up kids for games, to games and to friend; cleaning the kitchen, having the children wash, fold and put up their clothes, go grocery shopping, go to the dollar store and  then come home cook dinner for several days and wake up to another glorious Sunday morning only to begin these tasks again sans the holiday. Thanksgiving, we give thanks and as I sit, I wonder what exactly would our forefathers think if they could sit in our living rooms and see and hear some of the nonsense that we find ourselves thankful about. Many of what we call blessings are things that happened because we felt that in some what we deserved them to happen. When these ‘things’ manifest in our lives we are happy and know that we have HIM on our side. By the same token, we also find things not manifesting and instead of realizing that this too is a moment of thanks, we pout. We pout because after we prayed and prayed we still did not get our way. We need to be thankful for the fact that we got up this morning. Many people did not. We need to be reminded to be thankful in good and in bad times. We must be reminded that in order for this mom to retire at 55 consistent and determined focused purpose will be required. It has been 6 days since I have blogged and for that I can only say I have been so tied up with concerns that I cannot control  that  I have been unable to find the time to blog or to write an entire thought down. What I always do is to write ideas, thoughts and feelings on pieces of paper, napkins or gum wrappers and hold on to them. I stuff them in my purpose and when called upon to recall, I am able to do so the minute my fingers hit the keys of the keyboard. These 6 days it has rained, it has lightened, it has flooded some homes, it has caused delays and interruption in air travel and it will stop when He says it will.

So go out and enjoy the day that He has made after all what do you think you can do?  Yep that’s right, Pray.

 Yolande Barial
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Yesterday’s Sunday

Yesterday was my favorite day. I woke up in the usual manner excited and anticipating what was going to happen to me today.  I bounced into the service full of energy and full of dance. I exchanged hugs and kisses, shout outs and what ups with the adults and the kids. I always make sure I say something to the children who sit in the  back rows on both sides of the church.  There faces light up when they see me. This Sunday for the first time I saw in their eyes that the kids like me.  Not just the sweet ones, the ones that I didn’t particularly like when I first joined the church because I felt that they were just rude little kids. As I have become more involved in the church and in particular with the children, over time the ones who I know couldn’t stand me – the teenage girls – have mellowed and they now see something in me that is, worth the investment of a smile. I realized on this yesterday’s Sunday that by just being me and not wavering the kids have realized that I am a woman who is invested in them as individuals. The little kids turn around and look at me as I sit in my usual pew.  There eyes can barely see above the pew and as I look at them looking at me there eyes smile which makes me smile and we smile at each other for  a second or two and then they turn around.  The young children 9 and under sit in the front rows of the church. Each one turns around as if on cue, one after another. Looking at me with their smiling eyes.

http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Ways-for-Children-to-Volunteer  Retiring at 55 is coming closer one day at a time.

 Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

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“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”

Relaxed Son

He came downstairs and said he had a lot on his mind.  I was lying on the couch watching nothing tv and enjoying my home and my life and my children and our choices.  I knew that he was going to tell me something that I really needed to hear. These are the times that parents need to allow space to happen. Times when there is really nothing going on. No schedules to keep, no place to go and nothing to do – this is relaxation.  Real relaxation allows not only the body it also allows the mind the time it needs to be refreshed with its keeper of the body. This is the time when breath and body should become one. This was what I felt – relaxed.

He laid down on the loveseat and placed his hands behind his head. He had on long shorts for his pajamas and no shirt. He loves his abs. He says he has an 8 pack,  not just a 6 pack. He does sit  ups and leg lifts and push ups in his room every day. He has no fat and is all muscle. He is lean.  He is my middle son. He says that he has a lot of things on his mind. “Here we go”, says my mind, ‘hang on Yolande, here we go. He says that he likes his girlfriend. He adds I like her because she doesn’t chase me like the other girls – I chase her. I smiled and he looked at me and I said well, that is a good thing. He then asked me did you ever chase a guy. I said no, girls should never chase a guy. I said a guy should always pursue a girl because he is the one that has to maintain and take care of  her. He said, well that’s why I like her and I like to talk to her. I said that is a good thing, just be respectful and treat her nice. He said he would.  He laid there with his hands behind his head for a few more seconds and then he got up and went upstairs. We exchanged I love you’s and knowing glances and that was it.

I laid there on the couch smiling. Glad to be able to give my children a home filled with peace, filled with love and respect and filled with God.  Retiring at 55. Yes.

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

https://yolandebarial.wordpress.com/

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ybarial@gmail.com

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”

Sunday Again

My favorite day!  I kinda’ never went to sleep Saturday night. Mom taxi was running from 7:30 a.m. with both boys and daughter from Ripon back o Tracy from Tracy to Richmond back to Tracy to Stockton back to Tracy. My head hit the pillow at 3:00 a.m. Yep 3 a.m. The last several hours were for me and I enjoyed them immensely. 

However, I went to sleep anticipating Children’s Church Sunday. I compiled, typed and printed the children’s newsletter for the children to distribute. I spent the entire service sitting with the children in the choir stand. I sit with the little ones and the tweens and quite frankly spend about an hour and a half being a mom to about 15 children. The choir walks in the service from tallest to lowest teens and from tallest to lowest tweens and kids, I am holding onto an adorable little 3-year-old who is hearing impaired and who has yet to learn the sign language and the ability to keep her vocals down to a whisper.  She likes to run and clap and sing – and she will run away from you in a heartbeat which is dangerous of course because she cannot hear.  I hold her small hand as we enter the sanctuary preventing her from running ahead of me.  The minute myself and 2 other good church sisters process in with the children we are on alert for the whispers, giggles, eyes rolling,  lips moving with no sound coming out, the slumped in the chair sitting, the I-have-to-go the bathrooms and the I want-a-drink-of -water statements and actions of these our future leaders of the church. We say please be quiet, hush, and smile, stop talking, stop talking and stop talking over and over and over again. These children are oblivious to what the proper protocol should be acted upon when in the sanctuary. Their  parents are either blind, not able to manage their bundles of joy or just out right oblivious to the mis-manners of their progeny.  I prefer to think that they MUST BE BLIND.  The children sing. They sing and they sing all manner of song just beause they have to sing it; however, when you allow them to sing their songs they love that also  and when we sing same, it is almost like there is another choir on the altar. And who woulda’ thunk it? It really is us.  I work for this ministry because of my children.  If I expect them to continue to be leaders as each one is, I must continue to put forth my effort and lead and make that leadership one of a supportive role.  It is not necessary for a leader to  be out front. Some of our best leadership in any organization is found in what people call the grunt work.  I guess what that means is the person lacks the ability to express either his or her interest or disinterest in a particularly duty – so when called upon to perform; we give a no-answer-yes we will do it and with a  grunt at the end when we agree and of course always when we are alone. We do not want people to think that we don’t wanna even if we don’t wanna do it anymore.

I was so easily distracted this morning I had to go back to another service for a second helping. That is a blog all by itself.  I love Sundays I will retire at 55 and I love my children even more. God is forever and ever a being that is like no other and for that I am tremendously grateful to Him.

 Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

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“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”

Relaxation

There is nothing like relaxing.  Not the kind of relaxing that many women do when given an opportunity to be off from work – we multitask.  The day before any major holiday I have made  a list of  things that absolutely must be accomplished on my day off. The list: 1. get up around 6:45 a.m. and get ready to take the van to Honda for its 3000 mile oil change 2. while waiting in the lobby for the van to be done I am having a cup of coffee and a donut and a banana that the Honda dealership gives as a courtesy to its clients while waiting for var service 3. come home and announce to the kids that they have nothing to do today, because they are on vacation also, except to make sure they clean their rooms, clean their individual bedrooms and dust the furniture and later on the lawn has to be cut; other than that, that  is all they have do to. 4. I then make a big breakfast complete with cheese omelets, medium fried eggs, bacon, sausage, grits and honey butter toast 5. then I clean kitchen and begin a load of clothes washing 6.I then run to the dollar store, to Big Lots and to Food Maxx for groceries and canned goods and then come home – kids take out all of the groceries, etc. out of the van 7. I put them all up with assistance by little people who are now playing, skipping and touching each other into a frenzy of ultimate joy and brother-sisterhood and I AM NONE TOO HAPPY! You see it is my day off and I am trying to hurry up so that I can relax. (smile) Now isn’t this just plain stupidity on my part!  Can the church just say  AAAAMEN. 

Well gotcha! Not today.Not today. The night before I planned to sleep in and not do anything like I had done on my many days off.  I vowed to myself by saying Yolande today you are going to do nothing but relax. I washed and braided my daughter’s hair and took my oldest to basketball practice. As I braided my daughter’s hair, she and my middle son and I watch  Evan Almighty”. This may seem not like a big deal to you; however to me it was a very big deal. 

Have you ever seen this movie? Well my children watch it all of the time and I have only seen glimpses of it as I pass by the television cleaning and fussing because they are not doing anything just watching this movie. I know the movie is good, it looks good, it has Morgan Freeman in it and Steve Carrell. Both of whom I like.  It had animals and it is the story of Moses and the Ark.  Acts of Random Kindness is what the movie says Ark stands for. Kinda cool. The lesson for me is that there is s scene in the movie where God aka Morgan Freeman tells Moses/Steve Carrell’s wife that if it hadn’t been for the struggles that her husband was going through would they be as close as they are now? What that meant to me is that God allows trouble.  He is the one who troubles the trouble. Only then do we know where our strength really lies? It does not lie in our mate, our friends, our relatives or our children.The reliance that we have should and alway needs to be focused direclty on Him. Our God.  Even when you get trouble, if you take the time to think and prya and NOT react he will guide your through it and you will come out on the other side – victorius.

So waht real relaxing did for me today was to keep me intouch with whom I know is in charge. My children asked questions, I answered. Afte rhte movie all 3 kids and myself went out to dinner at Home Town Buffet. We had a date and what a good time it was. I lloked at each of my children as they giggled, I touched them, I teased them and I laughed with them. They played, got extremely animated and ate and ate and ate. I loved them intensely and I know tey love me. Now what could be better?

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

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“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”

Like daughter/Like mother

Sunday was a rainy day. After service we came home and chilled. My boys went directly to the video game and they can remain cloistered all day long coming out only to feed or drink. My daughter does her own thing, she writes, she folds her clothes and puts them up, she sings, she plays her guitar, she talks to herself, she plays with her li’l pet shop cats and her stuffed animals; she does all of this all by herself. She loves playing and being in her own room, doing her own thing. She comes out to make sure I am in the house.   http://www.oprah.com/oprahradio/The-Myth-of-Quality-Time

This day is mani/pedi day for me.  I have my feet soaking in a  foot spa and all of the accoutrement that goes into soaking, scrubbing and cleaning your feet surround me. I am preparing my feet and my nails for the polish that will make my hands shine with too hot colors and my feet not only look gorgeous but feel pampered. I polish my nails and create a design on one finger on the left hand and one big toe on the right foot.

My daughter loves mani/pedi’s. When I am done with mine she knows it is her turn. I call her from her one girl show and she emerges. She comes and sits on the floor next to me and picks out her colors. She always wants her fingernails and her toenails in different colors. She removes her old polish with the fingernail polish remover and then she cleans her nails. I then trim her nails and shape them and then I begin to polish them. She also wants a design on two of her fingernails, one on each hand,  and a design on each one of her big toes.  During this time we both enjoy each other. We talk about whatever is on her mind and I love to listen to what is on her mind. On this Sunday we talked about her dreams and she says that she can visualize very well. (smile)  We also watch a Nature program during this time.  This one was about the migration of the monarch butterfly and the crab. Last week during our time, we watched a show about crows and their intelligence. We both love programs about animals. 

She is so much like me. I am so much like her. That little girl that she is, is also me.  The time that we spend together on our weekly mani/pedi’s are memories that she will have to sustain her when I am gone.  I never was able to do things like this with my mother – times were different then and I know that my mom had a lot on her plate. I actually never even had a manicure or a pedicure until after I had my 2nd son. Now you talk about a slow learner!!  

I recognize that relationships are built one moment at a time and the sense memories and smell of fingernail polish, fingernail polish remover will remind my daughter of the good times we had in my room – just the two of us. Like daughter/like mother.  I will retire at 55.

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

https://yolandebarial.wordpress.com/

http://www.redroom.com/member/yolandebarial

ybarial@gmail.com

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”

My Sunday

Yesterday was my favorite day of the week. Yep Sunday.  I woke up excited about going to service. It was first Sunday and what that means is that women wear white.  The service was spirit filled and as usual I sat in my seat with anticipation of what I would hear Him say to me today. I didn’t change the time on my clock before I went to sleep so that meant the kids and I were an hour early.  I was jazzed because I was able to attend bible study, my daughter was happy because she also got to attend kids  bible study, my boys were not happy because they HAD to attend their bible study. Same experience, different perceptions, different reality – same family.

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Be-More-Spiritual-Every-Day-Dr-Wayne-Dyer

 The teacher for my lesson talked and talked and talked and talked. Soon he hit on something that I heard and it was taken from John 14: 15-31  and when he read: “26But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.  27Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid” from the King James Version.  One of the fellow attendees said that whenever she sees the word PEACE in the bible she changes it to the word WORD and then re-reads the statement.  So, what did all of this say to me? What I heard and felt is that regardless of the circumstances the Holy Spirit is with me. He is with me and he gives me peace. He gives me the WORD that will always sustain me. He is indeed my comforter and when I remain in communication with him – all things work together for His good.  This word also says that when I don’t know exactly what to do HE does and I should just follow HIS WORD/PEACE and know that it is all good.

 Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

https://yolandebarial.wordpress.com/

http://www.redroom.com/member/yolandebarial

ybarial@gmail.com

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”