Finally

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445
 

http://just-a-mom.us/

http://www.redroom.com/member/yolandebarial

Thank you Mom

The writer writes about what is important to him. I blog and wax poetic about the things that light my fire and as a way to make what I believe real.  Once a thought has been written on a paper it becomes reality.  Think about all of the reality shows and expose’s and documentaries and movies that we see daily.  Our minds are able to take the impossible action or the over-the-top action and make it believable.  That is the awesomeness of our thoughts. If we think it, even for a little while, it becomes real.  So, to that end we must be careful what we allow into our thoughts.  We often times can not stop the thought when it comes; however what we can do is to immediately recognize it as good for us or bad for us and when we make that connection we can “fix” it.  We can make it stay or we can make it go away.  Sometimes either or both of  those reactions are hard to do.  However, just like everything that we want it takes practice.  Practice doesn’t necessarily make things perfect; what it does for me, anyway, is to make things better and better. The more we practice the better we become. 
 
I have been writing since as long as I can remember.  My  mother raised me and my brothers and sister to be a little crazy, yes; however we were raised at a time when the term single mother didn’t exist.  What it was, was I guess you can say kinda normal.  My parents were married in name only. My mother raised us to be independent.  At the time we didn’t realize it, we were just doing what kids do.  We sometimes bucked her and thought she was crazy or slow or embarrassing; I admit sometimes still; however the woman did an amazing job.  She loves us unconditionally and  respectfully and disrespectfully, she is opinionated and pretty much always right.  This woman; strong, dark and chocolate has kept everything I have ever done as a little girl. Over the last 20 years she has begun to send me things.  She sent me my Brownie beanie when I was a 10-year-old, my pictures that I framed and decoupaged when I was 17, my fathers dog tags when he was in the Navy  and my  diaries from when I was a pre-teen to  about 17.  I have read my thoughts as a child and today my life has become the thoughts I had written.  When I read what I wrote as a child it is comical and thought-provoking and just down right silly.  The problems I had back then – cute. The belief in God has always been a part of the little Yolande then and now, it is what makes me the big Yolande. 
 
Thanks Mom for believing in me and in us when we didn’t even know that you were doing it.  By keeping those things that mattered to me when I didn’t know it and giving them to me when I know now what I know makes manifest my belief in your incredible ability to mother.  It is in this action that I see manifest true love and true care.  It is what I hope to become. A mother who believes that her children can do anything infuses into the child the belief that they really can do anything.  It is not so much the words that are said, it is the actions behind those words. A touch, a smile, a giggle, a grimace,  sucking air, an oh my God these kids are gonna kill me look – whatever the action – my mom had it all.  My brothers and sister and I knew then and  now  that she loves us.  And we love her.
 
 Please click on the link below.  This is my first article published for the Examiner which is an online newspaper. I am an official journalist and will be writing on this site and hopefully more jobs that pay will follow.  Thank you mom.
 
 

Teresa LeYung Ryan – Writing Career Coach

In January 2010, Teresa LeYung Ryan drove over an hour from her home in Oakland to my home to make me write daily.  She walked into my home and immediately began discussing feng shui and what was needed to ensure that all of the good thoughts remain in my home.  She then sat down with her laptop and all of her goodies that she travels with and walked me through the process of building my own WordPress site and becoming a Red Room author.  I have been a life learner and this was something to add to my portfolio of things that I must conquer.  I am a writer and a poet and am motivated to continue to grow until the day the Lord closes my eyes.  I want to be an example to my children of the possibilities of a dream coming into fruition during your lifetime.  I sat and listened as she explained what is a tag and how to incorporate them into your blogging.  She also gifted me with her workbook Build Your Name, Beat the Game: Be Happily Published a 22-day playbook. This workbook turned out to be the turning point in my life for writing.  In 22 days I got it and I have continually worked to my advantage.  January 2010, I goggled my name yolande barial and I had about 500 something results; as of today when I google my name I have about 5340 results.  In January 2010 I stated that I would be published in the Tracy Press. January 28, 2011, I was published in the Tracy Press.    http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog/tag/yolande-barial  

 

   I believe that if you write it will come to pass. I believe that without Teresa I would not have even begun the experience of the internet and knowing what is the capabilities.   Thank you Teresa. 

 

I say get this book  if you are serious about working to become a better you.  Teresa can be found at http://writingcoachteresa.com

Thank you Teresa!! Woo hoo!!

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

https://yolandebarial.wordpress.com/

http://www.redroom.com/member/yolandebarial

ybarial@gmail.com

http://www.tracypress.com/view/full_story/11154526/article-Her-Voice–Children-are-a-parental-responsibility?

  http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog/tag/yolande-barial 

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”

Parental Responsibility – Article

Her Voice: Children are a parental responsibility

by Yolande Barial / For the Tracy Press Tracy Press Jan 28, 2011 | 1006 views | 

New Year’s Day, my 15-year-old son and his girlfriend were invited to a party at the home of one of their school friends in Lathrop. I had never been to the home before, and neither had my son or his girlfriend.

The closer we got to the area, we noticed other vehicles driving slowly; apparently looking for the same house. There were three adults standing outside of a house — two men and one woman. I parked the van directly across the street and got out, as did the teens in my care. As I walked up to the house, hand outstretched, I introduced myself and then my son.

Before I could even begin to introduce my son’s girlfriend, the woman said to me, “You are the first adult to get out of your car and meet us.” I responded with, “You have got to be kidding?”

She said no, as did her husband and the neighbor. The two men looked rather athletic and were very capable of handling any 15-year-old boys or girls. She then told me that I was more than welcome to go inside her home and take a look around, and then she said to look at how many kids are in her home.

I walked into the home, a beautiful and roomy place with vaulted ceilings. The bass beats were rhythmically bumping off the walls and at least 30 teenagers were standing around, looking and talking to one another. I saw a lot of scantily clad girls and a bunch of sagging-pants boys.

On my way back to the van, the mom and I chatted, the dad told me what time the party was over and I assured him that my son’s girlfriend’s father would be picking them up. I wished them good night. He assured me that everything was going to be fine. I was comfortable leaving my charges at the party.

As I walked back to my van, I saw more cars pulling up. A car of four girls with an adult woman in the driver’s seat — probably someone’s mom — caught my attention. The mom had the car in park, engine still running, windows rolled up. The girls got out and went to greet the owners of the home and went inside. The mom never got out, and as a matter of fact, she had already driven away before her charges had gone into the house.

As I sat in my van, I thought: As parents, we have really fallen down on the job. In light of all of the crime that occurs daily against our children, there are still adults/parents/guardians who find it permissible to just drop their children off at a stranger’s house.

Does anyone but me see something wrong with this behavior, this style of parenting? As just a mom, I call on the other guardians to remember that we are the parents, and as such, we are directly responsible for our children and their welfare. We cannot continue to abdicate our responsibility and then blame others for what our children do.

We must put into practice adult caretaking behavior, for not only our sake but for the sake of the children we have been blessed to have in our lives.

• Yolande Barial is a mother and Tracy resident. 

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

https://yolandebarial.wordpress.com/

http://www.redroom.com/member/yolandebarial

ybarial@gmail.com

http://www.tracypress.com/view/full_story/11154526/article-Her-Voice–Children-are-a-parental-responsibility?

http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog/what-are-some-simple-yet-big-things-parents-guardians-can-do-for-children-and-teens/

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”

A good writer

I have been doing a lot of  mothering, a lot of partying, a lot of loving, a lot of laughing, a lot of thinking, a lot of paying bills, a lot of working at work, a lot of working at home and a lot of  reading and writing and not posting. I have been trying to write the way I have heard others say to write.  Write and save it on your clipboard, read it, edit it and then walk away from what you have read, do something else and come back to it, read it again, edit and then post. Well this may work for some, not for me.  I realized that I just have to write the way that I write and that is simply when I feel the words coming.  I am generally able to feel the thoughts come out at the same time I write the thoughts. I know that when I often times look back at the words that I have written I am astonished that these words in my head appeared on the screen and that I like what I read.  I am a good writer and I so enjoy reading others good writers. Writers that touch me indicate to me that they write from their truth based on their individual life experiences. 

I happen to read an article the other day in The Christian Science Monitor.  Now let me say that this is  a magazine that I have never heard of and at first found it to be a rather large magazine as far as magazines go and it reminded me of a smooth feeling newspaper.  I flipped through this January 24, 2010 edition and read an author that inspired me by what she had written.  Her name is Colleen Shaddox, I know nothing about her. As a matter of fact I haven’t even googled her. However just in the reading of her article entitled “A color-free childhood” I knew that she was real. She talks about her mother and her inability to embrace colors of any kind other than white being painted on the walls of the home. She talked about how she was the one in the family who loved color and how she painted her room in differing colors. Her mother didn’t like it. She said that when she finally was able to purchase her own house with her husband she painted their bedroom deep sage. Her mother came to visit and didn’t like it. She didn’t care.  Read it if you can find it.  Now this is just an ordinary story to some; however to me what it did was solidify how I feel about my mother.  I love her and yet we are so different in our abilities to relate to new situations that I often times become frustrated and irritated and just don’t want to hear yet another negative thing about someone. What this article showed me is that we cannot help what or who our parents were or have become; we have to honor them for giving us life. Giving us the life that we need to criticize them and look down at them and assume they no absolutely nothing.  Our mothers have had to navigate their lives the best way they know how; often times with much less introspective information that we have today. Today we mothers realize that when it is time to shut it down – we must. We realize that all conversation is not necessary. We see the value in rest which sustains us to yet do a lot of thing another day and another day and one more another day. I commend all of the colleen’s, yolande’s and teresa’s who have had to learn that being different is a gift. A gift that our mothers gave us by their example of rigidity of remaining in the ‘back in my day in their ideas. Thank you mother for this time when I am a good writer who will retire at 55 and continue remaining one within myself introspective, spiritual and fruitful.

 Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445

https://yolandebarial.wordpress.com/

http://www.redroom.com/member/yolandebarial

ybarial@gmail.com

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”

Love Made of Heart

http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog/august-is-happiness-happens-month/ 

She wrote about me, I write about her. Teresa LeYung Ryan a sister-friend, mentor, author, writing career coach, publisher and an inspirational woman on a mission. http://www.lovemadeofheart.com/

GraceArt Publishing is the publisher of Build My Writer’s Name, Beat the Game:  How to Create a Platform and Attract Agents, Acquisition Editors, Publishers, Readers, and Media Attention (the 22 minutes for 22 days workbook) 

All I can say is that if you need motivation, if you need branding help, if you need someone to push you into your own idea of who you are – that would be Teresa.  She has been my guide and my friend for 15 years and I attribute the ability to step out on faith as it applies to writing to her. She pushed me into WordPress and into Red Room http://www.redroom.com/member/yolandebarial

and into going to panel discussions, book signings and poetry readings. She introduced me to those that I needed to know when I decided to produce my own poetry readings at Kimball’s Carnival and then at Magic Johnson’s Starbucks in Oakland. I love her and I know you will too.  She is creating in my mind’s eye the vision that is retiring at 55.  Thanks T!

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose

Seeks to Enrich the Lives of Women through Spoken and Written Word.
510-589-6445
 

 https://yolandebarial.wordpress.com/ 

http://www.redroom.com/member/yolandebarial 

 ybarial@gmail.com 

 “Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers women of all ages to be on purpose.”

Teresa LeYung Ryan – Check her out!!

Teresa LeYung Ryan, author, writing coach, mentor, speaker, and friend says, and I quote  “I am so happy to announce the opening of the Love Made of Heart online store where you’ll find gift items for yourselves, children, moms and babies, pets, friends.”
http://lovemadeofheart.com/Love-Made-of-Heart-Online-Store-&-Gift-Shop.html

Need she  say more? (SMILE) Congratulations Teresa on another job well done.  It is always a good thing to surround yourself with like-minded people who are in motion. If you don’t rememnber anything else remember that.  Be forward thinking, moving and going somewhere, ANYWHERE besides where you are at right now.  Move something and believe me, life will reward the movement by surrounding you with others who are in the business of moving. 

Yolande Barial
Your Words Project: Speaking on Purpose
Seeks to enrich the lives of women through spoken word.
510-589-6445
yolandebarial@wordpress.com
www.redroom.com/member
ybarial@gmail.com

“Through her inspirational writings and spiritual poetry, Yolande Barial empowers all sisters, young and seasoned, to become on-purpose for themselves.”